I don't know about you but I think the longest I've ever been able to hang onto a New Year's resolution is a few months. Where did that idea come from anyway? My imagination tells me it's from generations of guilty feelings stirred up by the New Years morning walk of shame. Regardless of where the tradition came from it's a great idea.
The concept of setting a goal and having a plan is a major win strategy for almost anything you want to achieve in life, and like many New Years resolutions, goals go unachieved unless you work for them. In fact New Years Resolutions are goals just with a fancy name that happen at a specific time of year when you can usually con other people into joining you in the the painful process of change.
Having got a jump on the my News Year's goals I can share with you a few things I've learned over the last month about why I have failed in the past.
Changing old habits is a miserable, painstaking, incredibly worthwhile process. This process is always better when you get to share your torture with a close friend or loved one.
For over a decade I've been struggling with my weight. I would do really well fighting the battle by myself for reasonably long periods of time, but eventually became exhausted, or uninspired, and fell right back into my old habits. These old habits are always there when you need comfort, support, or peace.
This time my husband, Brent, is on board and together we're sharing the discomfort of developing new habits together. Having someone who's going through the same process is tremendously helpful and
comforting. Knowing that I can whine to him and he's not going to tell me to just give up ,or not to workout today, is a big relief and helps me vent some of the pent up emotions I have towards personal change.
For years I've taken the advice of everyone around me instead of trying to figure out what is really right for me. This wasn't a total loss, after all I've learned what does not work for me. This is a very valuable piece of the puzzle. If you know what doesn't work then you know not to do that again because it would be a waste of time and energy.
I'm the type of person that needs to get my chores done first. I need to finish projects as quickly as possible so as not to get distracted by the temptation of starting a new project. If I give into that temptation before the old project is done, it takes so much more energy to finish the old project later. In fact I have a sweater waiting in my crochet bin because I gave into the temptation to start something new before finishing it due to the guilt of not finishing the sweater the new project also wasn't finished
How does this relate to being successful with my goals to make personal changes?
I know that I need to focus my attention on the project at hand and get it over and done with so I can move onto the next project. I need to firmly develop a habit before I start to learn a new one. This means I need to develop a better, healthier relationship with food consumption before I can start eating like a normal person again.
During the course of the month Brent and I have examined in detail how much food we need and what makes us feel both good and bad.
There was of course the usual guilt that comes with cheating. Once you realize that the only person your letting down is you, you can start to take responsibility to learn from the experience.
The first time we fell off the wagon the over indulgence was so bad I managed to consume about 4000 calories in only a few short hours. Needless to say I felt like a blimp about to pop. My stomach was
stretched, I was tired and way to full. This feeling lasted more than 24hrs. I hurt more and felt generally sick. The next time we fell off the wagon I was much more careful about the amount I consumed.
These learning experiences have given me insight into what the future will hold for me when the weight comes off and I get to focus on maintaining my new body.
Working out is a daily pleasure I started by simply going out to see my horses more. Over the last month this has developed into my horse chores becoming easier and even having the energy to start hauling mud out of paddocks. My evening workout started with a few Pilates moves
and a short bike ride. I'm now back to running once a week and spend close to 2 hours a night in my gym.
As life continues to unfold there is bound to be challenges, and more opportunities to learn, but for the most part I have a pretty good feeling about my new found formula for change.
Live life to the fullest
Hi, I'm Cyndi Bird, hobby homesteader, aspiring writer, amature photographer, art and craft enthousiast and wanna be cook.